Learn all about the mysterious P spot and discover another layer of pleasure!
In this article:
- What Is the P Spot?
- Where Is the Prostate Gland Exactly?
- Why Are Men Hesitant About the P Spot?
- How Do You Get to the P Spot?
- How Do You Involve Your Partner?
Everything You Need to Know About the P Spot
What Is the P Spot?
Unlike a woman’s controversial G spot, the P spot is actually quite easy to identify. In fact, you may already know it by another name—the prostate gland.
Yup, your prostate gland isn’t just an organ that secretes fluid for your semen, it’s also an erogenous zone!
What is an erogenous zone? An erogenous zone is a part of your body that is extra sensitive to sexual arousal.
Your prostate gland actually swells up when you’re aroused. It can add another layer of pleasure when you apply direct or indirect pressure on it.
It can even take your orgasm to another level if you time it well. In fact, it’s possible to get an intense P spot orgasm—an orgasm that results from prostate stimulation.
Where Is the Prostate Gland Exactly?
The prostate gland is surrounded by three main organs: the bladder, penis, and rectum. It is located under the bladder.
The urethra also connects the prostate gland and the penis. During ejaculation, the prostate gland will push seminal fluid through the urethra and into the penis.
This is the fluid that mixes with sperm to make semen. From the outside, you can feel the prostate gland in between the anus and base of the penis.
Why Are Men Hesitant About the P Spot?
Regardless of their sexual orientation, many men find prostate play very pleasurable. However, some men may be hesitant about the P spot because they may be wary of anal penetration of any kind.
Perhaps they imagine it to be like a prostate exam at their doctor’s office. Don’t worry though, you don’t necessarily have to go down that road if you aren’t comfortable with it.
There are other ways you can hit your P spot. You just need to experiment a little!
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How Do You Get to the P Spot?
You can stimulate the P spot from inside and outside of the body. If you’re new to the P spot, you may want to try outside stimulation first.
Here are the different ways you can access the P spot from the outside:
- Massage the perineum – The perineum is the small stretch of skin between the scrotum and anus. Massaging this area puts indirect pressure on the prostate from the outside.
- Push your anus – Use a finger (or two) to gently push the anus inwards. If it makes things easier, think of it as attempting to ring a doorbell that’s slightly out of reach.
- Use a sex toy – There are non-penetrative sex toys, like anal vibrators, which you can use to stimulate the anus and, consequently, the P spot as well. Silicone sex toys are great to start with because they have a smooth texture and are easy to clean.
If you’re ready for some indoor fun, you can directly stimulate the P spot from inside your anus. You’ll be able to reach it by inserting one finger in your anus and staying on the top wall with your finger pointing up—as if you’re reaching for your belly button.
Don’t worry, you won’t have to go too deep! It’s about an inch away from the opening.
You’ve reached the P spot once you feel a small, walnut-like bump. The first few times you hit your P spot directly, you may feel the urge to urinate.
That’s completely normal because the prostate is so close to the bladder. Once you have a finger on your P spot, you can try applying direct pressure on it or even massaging it a bit.
Keep in mind that it’ll be easier to find your P spot when you’re aroused because it swells up. So don’t skip the foreplay—even if you’re all by yourself.
Tip: It may help if you experiment on your own first to figure out what you like and don’t like. Try stimulating your P spot the next time you masturbate!
How Do You Involve Your Partner?
If you’re interested in incorporating the P spot in your sexual repertoire, the first thing you need to do is talk to your partner. Be honest about your curiosity and take it slow.
It’s best to make sure that everyone is comfortable. Here are a few tips to help make it fun and safe for everyone:
- Make sure the area is clean – Your anus can come in contact with feces, so make sure everything is spick and span down there. Remember, you increase the risk for urinary tract infections if fecal bacteria somehow reaches the bladder.
- Take a warm bath – A warm bath can help relax the muscles in the rectum.
- Trim and buff fingernails – Long or sharp nails may make things unnecessarily uncomfortable down there.
- Wash your hands – You don’t want to inadvertently introduce any germs or bacteria to the anus. You may also want to avoid using fingers with cuts or wounds.
- Consider gloves or finger cots – If you or your partner are hesitant about letting your fingers go commando, you can use gloves or finger cots. Finger cots are essentially gloves for individual fingers.
- Try using lube – Your anus won’t self-lubricate like a vagina, so you may need a little help slipping in and out of it. A lubricant can easily help you with this.
- Take it slow – It might help put your partner at ease if you allow time for exploration and experimentation. You can suggest they start with outside P spot stimulation before attempting any direct stimulation.
- Experiment – The dynamics of pleasure changes when other people are involved. You might be surprised at how different some things may feel just because someone else is doing the stimulating!
When you and your partner are more comfortable with your P spot, regardless of how you choose to stimulate it, you can easily add it to your sexual repertoire! Your partner can stimulate your P spot during a blow job or even during penetration.
When it comes to sex, everyone has different preferences. You may or may not enjoy the P spot as much as other men do, but it’s worth exploring if you’re looking to spice things up in the bedroom.
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